As we transition into a new year, I
invite you to reflect back on 2009, specifically to times where you have made a
difference. I'm hoping you are
acknowledging your contribution, no matter how big or small. With each act, together, we all add to
creating a consciousness of peace and nonviolence.
And what about this coming year? Martin Luther King said "If a man hasn't
discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live." Biting words, for sure, and while some
of us may not have a cause we are willing to die for, I'm wondering how many of
us have a cause we are willing to LIVE for? Are we living what we believe? Something that we believe in so
passionately that we devote our time, talent and treasure to promote that cause,
to stand up for what is right.
While we may be a martyr for giving our life for a cause, I think more
importantly we can be a hero for devoting our life TO a cause.
For many of us, the New Year also
brings resolutions - statements about how we may want to change. Although we can decide to change a
behavior at any time, the New Year provides a convenient break point. Thing is, change is always happening,
all around us, and we get to choose how we interact with that change. We have the gift of choice, and we can
choose to give, or choose to make a difference in someone's life, or choose to
model peace in the face of conflict.
Or not.
In the tradition of New Year
Resolutions, I'd like to suggest that on our way to finding a cause we are
willing to live for, we resolve to:
- treat each other with respect and
dignity,
- let go of judgments and
condemnations,
- practice acts of kindness on a
regular basis,
- bring peace and reconciliation to
every circumstance,
- confront, then resolve
nonviolently, any conflict that comes up,
- discover, then be an advocate for,
that cause you are willing to live for.
Realizing that what we desire most is
to be happy, and that if there is war, poverty, hunger, scandal, deception,
corruption, greed, etc. going on all around us, it may be difficult to detach
and find that happiness. While most of these 'big picture'
conflicts are out of our direct control, we can chose to not participate in
them, and more importantly, we can chose to live a life that does not include
these behaviors. When we do this,
when we live in what the Dalai Lama calls 'positive ethical conduct', then we
are contributing to the consciousness of peace, we are adding to the possibility
that some day, happiness is the norm.
The
idea of happiness and a peaceful life goes back to ancient Greece, to Aristotle, where he
espouses the value of leading a virtuous life. Both Aristotle and the Dalai Lama (and
many in between) admit that it is easier to lose control, to overreact, to
create conflict, than it is to live positively. And by direct inference, this means it
is up to me, it's in my control, which way to live. In other words, Peace Begins With
ME!